What's the point?

I have been thinking about the events of the past few days and weeks on this site, and I honestly have to ask the question: Are we accomplishing anything by coming here? I really wonder.

I'm not even sure why I come here or any other blog anymore. Blogging takes up a huge amount of time if you actually bother to try and back your points up with references and such. I am really starting to question the value in spending my time doing it at all.

I guess I originally started blogging because I was mad. I'd read some of the absolute pure BS over at DailyKos and I felt the need to counter it. To get in there and fight for my side of the argument because I wasn't seeing it represented. I naively figured that presenting the arguments logically might actually change some minds, but it doesn't. Both sides are locked in this confrontational mindset of talking points and personal insult. You can't have an actual honest to goodness exchange of ideas, its all about making your side look good and the other look bad. We conflate and contort the perspectives to fit our various positions and refuse to acknowledge anything on the opposing side as being valid.

I tried to actually have an honest exchange with Tlaloc on the global warming and tidal power issues based on scientific principles. How could you argue about those? I mean they are mathematically based and have well-defined meanings. Surely you could have a discussion based on those and at least reach some definitive, "Yea, I guess you were right." But you can't. No matter how many sources I dug up, or rational arguments I presented, it didn't matter. What mattered was not acknowledging that based on the underlying science I had a point. So it became about finding small picky items that one could find fault with and then ignoring the bigger argument that had been made.

Now don't get me wrong, I did my share of that and I know it. But I would at least acknowledge valid points when they were raised, for example the fact that splitting helium would require as much energy as you had gotten out of the fusion in the first place. Yes, this is true. I clearly acknowledged it. The best I could get out of Tlaloc was that the word "Gravitic" was made up. I am sure that he spent time trying to find it SOMEPLACE just to prove me wrong. But every response, every come back was simply focused on calling me a moron. Well, two can play that game and I simply responded in kind. Who started it is irrelevant. In the end I tried to smooth things over a bit and extended the olive branch to Tlaloc at the end. The response? Take the branch and stick it in my eye. Well, OK then. I see how you want to be.

Then I had an exchange with Specter and Missliberty about the meaning of irrelevant as it applied to Rush. At first I was just being obnoxious to defend Rush. But as part of that exchange I got to thinking about how we choose to spend our time and whether we are spending it on productive activities. I mean, why would we choose to spend out time on things that are irrelevant?

Then as you all know yesterday Tlaloc and I were exchanging our usual barrage of personal insults and it once again became obvious that it didn't matter if I was right or wrong, the response was predictable. Personal attack. I wasn't changing any one's minds I was just wasting time and getting angry in the process. Life's too short.

So after last night I was thinking about how I wanted to respond to the whole thing. I am obviously capable of continuing the endless stream of personal attacks, those are easy, especially when Tlaloc is at the receiving end! :-) But after thinking about it I see no real purpose in indulging his puerile need to do so. When you argue with a fool, you end up looking like a fool, isn't that the saying? Well I don't particularly want to continue to look like a fool because of who I am arguing with, especially if in the end that is the only thing that is accomplished.

But now I have a problem. I can simply ignore him and let him keep tossing out his bombs unanswered, but of course that makes me look weak. I don't intend to stay here and look weak. I could continue endlessly as we have been, but I have decided that doesn't serve any particular useful purpose and it is disrespectful of everyone else to act that way. Besides, I come back to the conversation with Specter about spending your time on irrelevant things, and obviously I don't think that spending any amount of time thinking up insults for Tlaloc is a valuable use of my time. I choose not to bother anymore.

Now it is true that the rest of this group is somewhat less stubborn than either Tlaloc or myself and we have had some good exchanges, overall, but do I think I have changed any one's mind? Have I made any significant impact? No. This is obvious.

So, I ask the group here, what is the point? Do we actually accomplish anything useful by coming here?

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I am not here

to try to change anyone's mind. I seriously doubt you can change core ideology when you have a debate between intelligent people with well-developed ideological leanings. Some might say I am not intelligent but that's a different story :)

On the other hand it is possible to show how someone is wrong on the smaller issues. The person you are arguing with will not often acknowledge it, but there are others who are observing who might see and appreciate it. But it would just be on the smaller and non-core issues.

The main reasons I come here are:

1. I like the people here
2. I enjoy talking to people with opposite view points
3. Responding to them makes me think of why I hold the views that I do and thinking sharpens your mind :)
4. I love Newt's view that we should not be afraid to engage on the battlefield of ideas. The people here will not necessarily be swayed by anything you say, but you will get more ammunition for those who are not as ideological elsewhere and in real life.
5. While this is mostly sparring, it is actually possible to come up with reasonable solutions that people from various ideologies can support.

We might not be accomplishing some huge task of saving the country, but I hope we are helping ourselves by thinking. Also not everything needs to be about "accomplishment" - it can also be about enjoying the exchanges and relaxing.

"To discuss evil in a manner implying neutrality, is to sanction it." AR

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Ditto

I learned the hard way after spending a looong time at RedState that you're never going to "win" a debate with people who are already convinced you're wrong. I'm sure the same goes for entrenched liberals. Now, we're a bit more reasonable here, meeting in the middle and all that, but it's still a tall order to try to convince somebody you're right if they're invested in believing you're wrong.

Like Ender, I mostly do this for myself. I enjoy knowing what's going on, being on top of current events, having a reasonable grasp of big-picture conservative/liberal divides. I'm certainly not producing any masterpieces of literature here but I like putting together a decent diary. And dealing with people who question my beliefs forces me to try to back them up, to find out which are solid. I'm still working on the global warming story, for example, but I'm learning a lot as I go.

OTOH, it does sometimes feel like we're going in circles. It's cool to argue (as long as it doesn't get too personal) but it would be nice to feel like we were, as you say, accomplishing something. I've been kicking around a few crazy ideas, like challenging another bipartisan blog (e.g., the Forvm) to a debate, where two issues are discussed and the blogs each take the conservative position on one issue and the liberal on the other. Might be fun to work as a group to "win" the discussion. I was also thinking we could branch out a little, have more sports and entertainment discussions that would allow people to not split down the predictable conservative/liberal sides when debating, keep things from getting stale.

I dunno, it's a legit question. I suspect the answer is a bit different for everyone here.

Come, my friends. 'Tis not too late to seek a newer world -- Tennyson

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And BTW

since I mentioned the Forvm, there have been discussions over there as well about why bother; the latest is here . One of the replies captures my feelings on the debate aspect of SC pretty well:

My wish for this site is not that we become pinkie-lifted debate doyennes ever careful not to step on each other's toes. But rather folks who are able to go at each other tooth and nail (Chicago style!) and then understand, in the aftermath, that we might still hoist a metaphorical glass in the aftermath, to, if nothing else, our shared desire to make this place (by which I mean the USA) a better one for everyone in it.

As long as there is mutual respect at the end of the day, it works. If there isn't, it degenerates into personal attacks and emotionally draining flamewars. If the mutual respect just isn't there with a particular poster (on whichever side), I'd just ignore them to the extent possible and focus on more productive exchanges.

Also, one final thought: about six months ago (maybe a bit more) SC had a few liberals leave because they thought the place was too conservative. There's probably a cyclic aspect to some of this.

Come, my friends. 'Tis not too late to seek a newer world -- Tennyson

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Well....

.... I appreciate your taking the time to write this.

I do think we can affect each other, and I do think our exchanges can be helpful. But it's a sort of glacial or tectonic type of shift... not readily apparent in the short term, but grinding out changes in the long term.

That's what I think, anyway.

A politician is an arse upon which everyone has sat except a man -- e e cummings

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some change is possible

for example pico has probably affected some of my attitude towards gay rights. Not necessarily a core change but a mild adjustment.

Of course I've affected most liberals here as well :)

"To discuss evil in a manner implying neutrality, is to sanction it." AR

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aww...

I'll have you singing karaoke in drag in no time!

(ha. even I don't do that)

In a related story, you'll be proud to know how disgusted I've been with Democratic committee chairs taking too much enjoyment in their newfound power, to the point of pettiness. If I see another dkos diary about "oooh, look at the Dems shut down those stupid R's", I'm going to crack.

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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Are you kidding me?

Before I came here, I was a belligerent, warmongering, anti-gay, pro-life, free-market-to-the-death conservative who believed in crushing our enemies like the ladybugs (or was it cockroaches?) they are. I made Rush look like Michael Moore I was so conservative.

That was until I met missliberties who showed me the light and converted me to the good side. Thanks missliberties! :) Stick around. Let my lesson be your lesson!

Ok, maybe that's not true. I am not really in a philosophical mood tonight, so I will just say that I've had my down times here also because of many of the specific reasons you are dealing with and some were just a general malaise about the way I am/was spending my time especially considering the lack of modifications in opinions.

Nevertheless, I am a debater at heart. You might even say I am a masterdebater (could you see that from a mile away?). I like the people around here. I like to get the conservatives' views on things and maybe show them that us libs are not traitors, that we love this country and want to make it better too. I enjoy a good argument and practicing my rhetorical wit. I even like the jokes and personalities from the great people who do come here. Much of this I've said in the past and Ender says here also. But it is true. As much as I try to stay away, I always find my way back.

I hope you choose to stick around. I don't like your political beliefs, but you seem like a good person. I respect you and enjoy your participation here. Good luck with your decision. (It is possible to stick around here and not communicate with some posters. Someone has been avoiding me for a few months now and I've only engaged this poster a few times in return and it has not ruined my experience of the site. If you wish to, you can just avoid those you wish to.)

P.S. I like Brendan's ideas for a cross-site debate even if it is temporary. Count me in. On which side will you participate since I know you are active at both?

We are all mediators, translators. - Derrida
http://signicide.blogspot.com/

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Sometimes,

I even miss the really crazy people who've passed through here. It's like an Overton Window of sorts: when you keep them around long enough, the rest of us seem outright sane by comparison.

GoRight: in all seriousness, I'd rather interact with you than at least one person on the (far) left who's no longer here. How's that for a bizarre peace offering?

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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Honored

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The benefit of swordscrossed is.....

I begin to see the other side--conservatives as human and hopefully conservatives see Dems as human too.

We debate--and most of the time agree to disagree. Sometimes it gets personal for others--and they say sorry.

I see changes in thinking for Ender--he used to deny the problems of this War, GOP and Bush --now accepts the criticism.

I also used to ascribe conservatives position as wrong and from bad motivation (talking points, corruption, greed) --but I realize from talking to people here, they also love this country and really have sincere and good motivations. I get to see their side and where it is coming from.

I also realize--conservatives and progressives really want the same thing except they differ on how to achieve it. Or sometimes they really mean the same but the rhetorics are different.

In DailyKos, even big time posters and former FP were given ultimatum to moderate their behavior, and be more civil which made him leave for good--he said he was banned but Kos denies it.

So yes I think Swordscrossed is a good thing.

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Global Warming Swindle video link

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XttV2C6B8pU

What do you think about the movie.

Tom Hartman of air America disputes many of its assertions.

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Perceptions

But now I have a problem. I can simply ignore him and let him keep tossing out his bombs unanswered, but of course that makes me look weak. I don't intend to stay here and look weak.

Refusing to engage in a useless flame war makes you look smart and disciplined, not weak.

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Agreed

Without naming names, I can say that the most universally respected poster at dkos is also renowned for not getting into flamewars. Unlike the other thousand of us.

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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I love it here!

But there is definitely an issue when we don't meet eye-to-eye in our expectations, and that's exacerbated by the medium. When I throw my usual devestating critiques at you, I can't toast you with a beer like I normally do the people I'm debating (loudly, at bars).

Speaking of which, I'm getting a visit this weekend from a friend I haven't seen in a long time. Conservative, Republican, and gay. We're likely to go out and bang our foreheads against each other, and spit across the table, and call each others' mothers horrible names. Naturally, we get along great!

But I think there's also a very real and sneaky positive to this site, which I mentioned in a comment before: it humanizes the opposition. It is very easy on partisan blogs to discuss Them as if They were a mindless mass - it is not so easy when you find yourself here, chuckling at a comment that someone from the other side makes, to maintain that point of view.

Does that mean anything, practically speaking? Maybe not, maybe so. But it certainly beats hiding under the covers, in echo chambers of our own making.

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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Echo chambers=

boring.

Sounds like a fun weekend!

I will expect a full accounting, of the specific brilliant moment and what is was that you said, that caused your friend to turn from the dark side..!

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Of note

With respect to the left/right imbalance, I count 7 front-page stories (not open threads), of which I would characterize all 7 as non-liberal. Not all 7 are strongly conservative either, of course, but if anything we seem to be leaning right on the front page. Time for liberals to step it up!

(The diaries lean left but there's a number of conservative entries there too. Hopefully some of the RedState or Minority Report folks will keep cross-posting some of their stuff.)

Come, my friends. 'Tis not too late to seek a newer world -- Tennyson

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Good point!

I'll try to put something together this weekend. I have a short break from dissertation world.

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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The difference between SC and Malkin or Hannity

I cannot stand listening to Limbaugh, O Reilly, or Hannity--or read Malkin

Because I think sometimes they lie or are very careless with facts or deliberately deceptive.

What I like about SC is the Republicans here are honest Republicans.

Some of them start being so grossly misinformed but once they get the facts they get to accept the reality.

Although they dont change their conservative
rhetoric, at least they now seem debating base on real facts.

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Take two aspirin

Everyone catches the whybothers at some point. It's like the common cold of the blogworld.

I think you answered you own questions: when you post or comment out of some desire to be obnoxious or just to defend your party's honor, then the exchange can quickly degenerate and become a supreme waste of time. Because it is not a good faith discussion. Would you take that approach if we met for dinner?

There's nothing wrong with articulating and defending a point of view. And there's nothing wrong with having fun, if exchanging insults is your idea of a good time. But don't confuse the two or else you'll catch a whopping case of the whybothers.

"The human race divides politically into those who want people to be controlled and those who have no such desire."  --R. Heinlein

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Thank you one and all.

I want to take a moment to thank everyone who took the time to respond to my diary. I have read all of your comments and you have collectively reminded me that this is a place to simply exchange ideas and to learn about the other side's point of view. We will all have our heated interpersonal disputes, but it is how we deal with those disputes that demonstrates our personal character.

I like coming here (and other blogs) as a means of keeping on top of what the hot news of the day is. Here we get both perspectives and can therefore make a more informed decision as to what we believe. While we may individually differ in our conclusions, collectively I believe that we gain more from interacting than we would by simply ignoring one another.

I was never really likely to simply go away for good. I couldn't stop blogging if I wanted to. I know because I have tried. I still keep coming back. It merely seemed a good time to step back and reflect on what this all means and why we do it, at least for me.

I'm the Bugs Bunny of Swords Crossed!
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Couldn't stop if you wanted to...

We may have to start a 12-step program. Bloggers Anonymous. Hello, my name is pico, and I'm welded to my keyboard.

Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

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